A Mother’s Love: The Power of Owning Your Choices

Not every wife I’ve worked with chooses to leave her husband, even when she knows deep down it might be the best decision for her. One client’s story stands out—a mother torn between her own happiness and the well-being of her children.

She admitted from the start that she should have never married her husband. She realized they weren’t a good match and had felt this way for years. But they had two young children, and the thought of going through a second divorce haunted her. Her first divorce had been messy, leaving her older children emotionally scarred. She couldn’t bear to see her younger children endure the same pain.

Feeling trapped, she carried the heavy burden of “I can’t.” She told herself she couldn’t leave her marriage, couldn’t face another divorce, and couldn’t uproot her children’s lives. This mindset drained her. When we tell ourselves “I can’t,” it weakens us. It makes us feel powerless, as if we’re stuck and have no choice.

But the truth is, we always have a choice.

Through our work together, she began to shift her perspective. Instead of focusing on what she couldn’t do, she started to see the power in what she chose to do. She decided, with clarity and intention, that staying in her marriage was her choice—not because she was stuck, but because she valued giving her children a stable home life.

This shift changed everything. By reframing her decision as an active choice, she felt empowered instead of defeated. She regained her inner strength, and that strength allowed her to stand up for herself within her marriage. She established clear boundaries with her husband, setting expectations for how she wanted to be treated.

My goal is never to tell a woman whether she should stay or leave her marriage. Instead, I guide her to find power in whatever decision she makes. I often remind my clients of my motto: There is no right or wrong decision—only a decision you make right.

For this mother, making her decision “right” meant committing fully to her choice to stay. It wasn’t about settling; it was about standing strong in her values and taking control of her life. Once she embraced her decision, she no longer felt weak or powerless. She discovered that her strength came from within, and that strength allowed her to create a better dynamic within her marriage, for herself and her children.

A mother’s love is powerful, but it can’t thrive if it comes at the cost of her own sense of self. This client’s story is a reminder that we are never truly stuck. When we own our choices—whether it’s to stay or to leave—we reclaim our power and our ability to create a life aligned with who we are and what we stand for.

Her journey shows that love, strength, and clarity come not from avoiding tough decisions but from embracing them with courage.